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garranI bought Sufjan Stevens' "Illinois" for my dad's Christmas, and we listened to it together on the car ride down to our Christmas Eve gathering with his side of the family. This proved to be a terrible mistake, because I'm now obsessed with an album I do not own. (I did get a number of other albums for my own Christmas which I'm sure would be awesome if I could tear myself away from pining for Illinois (and listening to the two or three tracks I have off of it) long enough to put them on. I didn't receive any Ted Leo, which would probably stand the best chance of distracting me; yes, Brendan Adkins, that one is your fault.)
I've been wanting to talk about my tendency to feel like I need to continually seem awesome and interesting, and thereby prove my worth as a friend, but I'm not sure whether I've figured out what I want to say about it yet. (I'm thinking about it again today because I've been watching Arima go through something a little similar; I went over to Elise's, and we watched the first six episodes each of Evangelion and of KareKano, which series complement each other very well. It occurs to me that it's probably not actually an uncommon insecurity; it is, after all, the traditional reason for bluster.) It's problematic because it makes me anxious when I'd like to be content, and is actually counterproductive, since my fear of being uninteresting periodically contributes to my being socially reticent or even reclusive. I'm not sure how to assuage it, since I can't argue to myself that the fear is unfounded, and that the people I like would also like me even if I never said or did anything - they wouldn't! - and I'm not sure how to separate it from the actually healthy and useful parts of my desire to be a good friend and a neat person.
When I talk about something I'm unhappy with, I often get worried that it will look like that unhappiness is currently swallowing my life. It probably doesn't really look like that, but anyway, it isn't.
I've been wanting to talk about my tendency to feel like I need to continually seem awesome and interesting, and thereby prove my worth as a friend, but I'm not sure whether I've figured out what I want to say about it yet. (I'm thinking about it again today because I've been watching Arima go through something a little similar; I went over to Elise's, and we watched the first six episodes each of Evangelion and of KareKano, which series complement each other very well. It occurs to me that it's probably not actually an uncommon insecurity; it is, after all, the traditional reason for bluster.) It's problematic because it makes me anxious when I'd like to be content, and is actually counterproductive, since my fear of being uninteresting periodically contributes to my being socially reticent or even reclusive. I'm not sure how to assuage it, since I can't argue to myself that the fear is unfounded, and that the people I like would also like me even if I never said or did anything - they wouldn't! - and I'm not sure how to separate it from the actually healthy and useful parts of my desire to be a good friend and a neat person.
When I talk about something I'm unhappy with, I often get worried that it will look like that unhappiness is currently swallowing my life. It probably doesn't really look like that, but anyway, it isn't.
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Date: 2005-12-30 12:03 am (UTC)On another note, I got your Christmas present to me. It is indeed awesome. :oD Thank you very muchly.
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Date: 2005-12-30 01:31 am (UTC)No, I'd just be lonely. ^^; And then, when I did meet someone interesting, I'd panic and think that they were out of my league, so actually, yes I would. Besides, I have this terrible sneaking suspicion that everyone is interesting - even me; my problem isn't the feeling that I'm not actually neat so much as it is the unfounded anxiety that I have to constantly prove it, or people will get bored and wander off.
...I can confidently say that you are an awesome and interesting person.
Aww; thank you. Your opinion's an important one. (Also, thanks for responding to one of my introspective livejournal entries. No one ever does that.)
And, hooray: I'm glad you like it. That's what you get for waxing publically eloquent about how much you like to receive certain gifts. ^_^_v
-Garran