Happy last stretch / I'm not afraid to get it right...

[garran]

I bought Sufjan Stevens' "Illinois" for my dad's Christmas, and we listened to it together on the car ride down to our Christmas Eve gathering with his side of the family. This proved to be a terrible mistake, because I'm now obsessed with an album I do not own. (I did get a number of other albums for my own Christmas which I'm sure would be awesome if I could tear myself away from pining for Illinois (and listening to the two or three tracks I have off of it) long enough to put them on. I didn't receive any Ted Leo, which would probably stand the best chance of distracting me; yes, Brendan Adkins, that one is your fault.)

I've been wanting to talk about my tendency to feel like I need to continually seem awesome and interesting, and thereby prove my worth as a friend, but I'm not sure whether I've figured out what I want to say about it yet. (I'm thinking about it again today because I've been watching Arima go through something a little similar; I went over to Elise's, and we watched the first six episodes each of Evangelion and of KareKano, which series complement each other very well. It occurs to me that it's probably not actually an uncommon insecurity; it is, after all, the traditional reason for bluster.) It's problematic because it makes me anxious when I'd like to be content, and is actually counterproductive, since my fear of being uninteresting periodically contributes to my being socially reticent or even reclusive. I'm not sure how to assuage it, since I can't argue to myself that the fear is unfounded, and that the people I like would also like me even if I never said or did anything - they wouldn't! - and I'm not sure how to separate it from the actually healthy and useful parts of my desire to be a good friend and a neat person.

When I talk about something I'm unhappy with, I often get worried that it will look like that unhappiness is currently swallowing my life. It probably doesn't really look like that, but anyway, it isn't.

Comments

[haibane-rachan.livejournal.com]

If you didn't hang out with such interesting people all the time, you wouldn't feel like this at all. That said, I do not hang out with similarly interesting people (which is to say that the people I hang out with are not interesting in the same way you are, not that they're not interesting), so I can confidently say that you are an awesome and interesting person.

On another note, I got your Christmas present to me. It is indeed awesome. :oD Thank you very muchly.

[garran.livejournal.com]

If you didn't hang out with such interesting people all the time, you wouldn't feel like this at all.

No, I'd just be lonely. ^^; And then, when I did meet someone interesting, I'd panic and think that they were out of my league, so actually, yes I would. Besides, I have this terrible sneaking suspicion that everyone is interesting - even me; my problem isn't the feeling that I'm not actually neat so much as it is the unfounded anxiety that I have to constantly prove it, or people will get bored and wander off.

...I can confidently say that you are an awesome and interesting person.

Aww; thank you. Your opinion's an important one. (Also, thanks for responding to one of my introspective livejournal entries. No one ever does that.)

And, hooray: I'm glad you like it. That's what you get for waxing publically eloquent about how much you like to receive certain gifts. ^_^_v


-Garran

[feedbacksolo.livejournal.com]

"Also, thanks for responding to one of my introspective livejournal entries. No one ever does that."

For me, anwyays, I don't introspect much on my livejournal, but save that for my private paper journal. So when I see an entry like yours, even if it's made public, I instinctively feel like it should be sacrosanct and untouchable the way I view a diary - it almost seems like an imposition to admit that I read it by leaving a comment...

[masamage.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean.

There's occasionally, too, an instinctive feeling that if I post anything it ought to be extremely insightful.

Which, bizarrely, is exactly the subject of this particular post! o_o

[garran.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean, too.

This complaint is probably a little misapplied in this case. It's just that, even when I write something more thoughtful on a topic that has little to do with my innermost feelings, I don't tend to get responses much. I read livejournals in other circles where there's a culture of lively discussions in comments, and when I see that it makes me a little wistful, because I don't have it; too, now that I have a journal with the capacity for direct comment, it feels a little like a judgement on me when there aren't any.

Anyway, my intent actually wasn't to make people who weren't commenting feel guilty, and I'm sorry if I did; even though I'd like to hear from people more, that seems pretty graceless. (After all, at least you're reading! And even if you're not, I bear no ill-will.) I just wanted to provide positive reinforcement to those as break the mold.


- Andy H.

[garran.livejournal.com]

Interestingly, though, I think that you consistantly reveal a lot more of your emotional state on your livejournal than I do.


-Andy